The #GirlBoss series is back!
When I first wrote a #GirlBoss post, I thought it would just be a one-off, but then I realized I had a bunch more to share on this topic! After a few years in the “working world” I’ve learned a lot (mostly through mistakes) and hope that by sharing these little life lessons (and sometimes embarrassing moment) I can help you walk into the office on your first day (or 900th day) ready to crush anything sent your way!
As most of you know, I have a full time marketing job that keeps my beyond busy (which is why most of my blogging takes place at 5am). Being a young female in the working world, it can sometimes be hard to radiate confidence in a room full of grown, experienced adults who have been working longer than you have been breathing. This list is here to help!
Raise your hand if you’ve ever been in a meeting where you felt way over your head.
Raise your hand if you’ve ever felt like a small fish in a big pond in the office.
Raise your hand if you’ve ever wished your name wasn’t called in a room full of “bigwigs”.
I can’t actually see your hands raised, so I’m going to assume that since you’re still reading at least one of the above items hit close to home and made you raised your hand like you were confessing you’d been personally victimized by Regina George (click here if you don’t know what I’m referring to).
So here are the 5 things I remind myself to do every day before walking into a meeting that’s a bit intimidating:
The worst thing you can do in a meeting you feel nervous in is sit there quiet as a church mouse. You need to show everyone there is a reason you are in that chair, which means you need to speak up, ask questions, bring up a new idea. Whatever gets you heard and will show others that there was a reason you were asked to the meeting.
Make eye contact.
We are (sadly) no longer 5 years old and can’t hide behind our parents legs anymore if we are shy. If someone is speaking, look at them! Don’t stare out the window, at your computer screen, and definitely not your phone! Turn all your attention to the person with control of the floor and lock eyes with whoever is speaking. Not only will you understand better, but you will show them you care about what they are saying (especially when the girl next to you is chomping on bubble gum and messing with her nails).
Don’t be a distraction in the meeting. Before you go it, swing by the mirror to fix your hair, use the restroom so you don’t have to get up in the middle of the discussion, and try to only bring water into the room. Keep fidgeting to a minimum so you can truly focus on the meeting and also not be a distraction to others.
This is pretty much related to all of the other tips, but getting distracted by emails popping up on your computer or things outside the window will make you look like you don’t care about what’s being discussed, not to mention you could miss something critical to the discussion… and then you’ll really be lost!
Dress to impress.
Make sure you’re in an outfit that’s not only comfortable, but that you feel confident in! I got this awesome Lulus dress a few months ago and now it’s my go-to meeting companion. It’s office appropriate with long sleeves and high neckline, yet still feminine with its scalloped edges along the bottom and sleeves. I’ve worn this dress to the last two meetings I was a bit intimidated by and swear it made a difference with my confidence level!
Moral of the story? Never let the other people in a meeting rattle your nerves! You’re in that meeting for a reason. Your opinion is valued. So sit up straight, speak with confidence, and show everyone that you’re a #GirlBoss ready to take on the world (in a super cute outfit of course)!
What are your tips for radiating confidence when you’re in a big meeting?